Flatmates who don't pull their weight

[Charlie]

We're having the problem in my flat of one guy just not doing any washing up whatsoever. It's go so far that if there aren't any plates, he'll take two saucers and just eat of them and then leave them out. Ketchup hardens, hot chocolate solidifies on the bottom of mugs making it impossible to get out. It's actually embarrassing to take people through to the kitchen/sitting room. He's never once taken out the rubbish or even put a new bin bag in the bin when it's over-flowing already. I am absolutely sick of it.

I've just done all the dishes which took me about half an hour and left a note telling people to take their fingers out. Don't think it will actually do anything though.

Anyone else have a similar problems with flatmates and any potential solutions?

[gaggle64]

*reads thread title*
*Remembers last year*
*Starts vomiting blood*

[RagDoll]

My house is a tip.

We're all too chilled/drunk to care.

[The Bard]

Do what they did to Private Piles in Full Metal Jacket. If you're lucky, he'll shoot himself.

[Wesley]

That's some good advice.

And this is why I'm not flat sharing when I go to Uni.

[ReZourceman]

Why dont you talk to him?

If hes your friend he will listen...and if he doesn't you wont feel bad for putting dirty plates in his room, or generally antagonising him!

[Charlie]

I wouldn't really say we're friends - I don't see him all that often, but we're not not friends if you know what I mean. Someone has spoken to him about it already and he said he can't be bothered and is really lazy.

[ReZourceman]

Hmmm. He really needs to grow up in that case. Sounds like a tosser, that really is low to not pull your weight in that situation.

[Cube]

Anyone else have a similar problems with flatmates and any potential solutions?


We have the washing up problem. When it gets bad we all chip in, though.

[gaggle64]

*finishes vomiting lungs*
Urgh. Anyway, you can try talking to him, but if he's anything like the three dickwads I got lumbered with last year, he's not likely to get the message. I remember leaving the kitchen immaculate with only the bin needing emptying, returned after the Xmas break to find them sitting in a kitchen with analogous fluids of every colour of the rainbow dripping out the fridge, over the oven and off every available surface.

[rokhed00]

Half an hour to do the dishes, how hard done by.
What was that, first time you've done them in how many weeks/months?

[Charlie]

Half an hour to do the dishes, how hard done by.
What was that, first time you've done them in how many weeks/months?

When they're not your own dishes its bloody annoying. And it's every 2 or 3 days we need to do them. I don't know how they pile up like that.

[kyletherobot]

as difficult as it is to live with someone like that, the only thing you can do is put up with it.
thats not really advice, but its realistically the only thing you can do.
but you should piss in his milk.

[Jordan]

Dishes pile up fast, if theres stuff left over... because i'm an idiot i always do stuff for the other people who live here.

I'm way too nice though. The fact is, if that space isn't tidy and you have a landlord you can tell him and they'll sort it out.

[McPhee]

Move all you're stuff in to you're room, get everyone to do likewise. Then just don't wash his stuff, he'll soon run out of dishes to use.

Or, do like-wise but shit all over his plates and stuff.

[Razz]

Sounds like my brother, he's the laziest most selfish bastard on the face of the earth.

[jayseven]

as difficult as it is to live with someone like that, the only thing you can do is put up with it.
thats not really advice, but its realistically the only thing you can do.
but you should piss in his milk.
That's what my dad told me to do, if I ever knew a flatmate was stealing my shit.

Last year in halls the kitchen was generally annoying... Just put his stuff aside and wash your own? Maybe organise a rota? I would just say to him "look, i'm fed up of washing up your shit so fucking do it yourself, and don't you dare use mine else I'll shit on your face when you're asleep."

I don't know. Jeez.

[Oxigen_Waste]

I live with two girls... no complaints really. We work in harmony. Rooms are single territory wich can be used at will, common spaces are clean. =D
My room's clean too. Their rooms... well, underwear everywhere. lol

[gaggle64]

If he's not washing his dishes, put the three day rule into operation: Keep all your dishes and cutlery and stuff stowed safely in your room, and anything that remains with festering food on it for three days or more gets binned. No ifs and no buts.

[Haden]

*reads thread title*
*Remembers last year*
*Starts vomiting blood*

lol did you post about your bad experiences? It kinda rings a bell.

I was bad at washing up in my shared uni house but the thing is I didnt impose it on anyone else I used my own stuff and washed it when I wanted and kept dirty plates and cups in my room so im not a complete bastard.

[Iun]

Hide the other plates. Everyone else should take a plate, knife, fork, spoon, glass and bowl into their room, only clan your own stuff and then when he needs things, he'll have to use dirty things or clean up after himself.

University is fun. Oh wait, no. University is hell because you finally realise that there are so many people who don't give a toss about anyone but themselves.

[gaggle64]

lol did you post about your bad experiences? It kinda rings a bell.
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Indeed I did, at some length. Being able to vent my rage on this forum was the only thing that stopped me from committing multiple murder and then multiple suicide. It was a long year. They actually drove me to have a brief mental breakdown in the end. Finished their year, took straight off with the bleeding kettle. I had to boil the water for my tea in a pan for two weeks, the bastards.

[Portlett]

you need to say something to him, all he has to do is wash up after hes eaten its not very hard and its just inconsiderate to other people. Ive had a similar problem but I was in a 10 bedroom place so it was much worse.

[EEVILMURRAY]

I end up doing most of the kitchen work in my house. I share with 3 other people, 2 guys, one lass. They like using plates then just leaving them wherever's free space in the kitchen. I end up making pyramids out of the shit they left behind.

One housemate only brought one plate with him, so when he uses that he ends up using mine, and when I ask him to wash them, he states that he does wash them, only to use them a second later.

[Dan Dare]

you should keep all your plates in your room- and get your proper housemates to follow suite. If he's actively forced to clean his shite up, he might learn. maybe. that's the only real option.

[Haden]

Indeed I did, at some length. Being able to vent my rage on this forum was the only thing that stopped me from committing multiple murder and then multiple suicide. It was a long year. They actually drove me to have a brief mental breakdown in the end. Finished their year, took straight off with the bleeding kettle. I had to boil the water for my tea in a pan for two weeks, the bastards.

lol yeh I remember now poor you hope your living with nicer people or by yourself now!

[My Buttons are Magic!]

one of my flatmates is doing my nut in - seriously!

she is one of the most lazy selfish girls i have ever met (and i thought i had met the worst)

she refuses to do her dishes or ttidy them away - she wears hair extensions so im constantly finding ginger furballs everywhere - they clog up the drains so the shower turns into a swimming pool...
.. secondly.. i know everyone thinks they go go tu niversity fo study? right? but nu huh for her, she hasnt handed in a bit of her english coursework which counts for 50% iof her english module marks, and today she "forgot" and didnt know how to do her media workshop file... THATS WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU DONT GO TO CLASS

i seriously think i may have a breakdown - thank god tomorrow is holidays

[ReZourceman]

Christ she sounds like a nobber jobber. She needs a good slap.

[will']

.. secondly.. i know everyone thinks they go go tu niversity fo study? right?

People go to uni to study? Woah!

Anyway, in my time I had a few annoying housemates but nothing too major. If talking to them about such matters doesn't work then you just have to prevent them from creating such mess in the first place. Keep all the clean plates locked away so if they want to eat they have to clean up their old crap first. Its petty and requires some effort but it will force them to do a bit of cleaning up and ensure you have some clean plates to eat off.

I have to say its one of the few things I do not miss about uni at all.

[My Buttons are Magic!]

People go to uni to study? Woah!

Anyway, in my time I had a few annoying housemates but nothing too major. If talking to them about such matters doesn't work then you just have to prevent them from creating such mess in the first place. Keep all the clean plates locked away so if they want to eat they have to clean up their old crap first. Its petty and requires some effort but it will force them to do a bit of cleaning up and ensure you have some clean plates to eat off.

I have to say its one of the few things I do not miss about uni at all.

she goes to party, i go to study... :(
augh - shes just pissing me off too much
tho she made me feel bad for going off to hand in my coursework today as when i came back she had the kitchen tided

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[DCK]

Bleh, no such people in my flat. Social discipline is what makes the clock tick here :cool:

[Blackfox]

My friends are like that, except that I chose to live with them as they're my best buds. I've stopped giving a fuck to be honest.. I rant once in a while and they clean up.. eventually.

[The Bard]

Jesus, if I get landed with people like that, things are not gonna end well. "When they strap me in the chair, let them know the murder was just."

[Jimbob]

If i ended up with people who didn't do their fair share, then there would be trouble. I would give them a few verbal warnings then i would stop tidying up until they can be bothered. And if that didn't work, then i would kick them out.

[Shorty]

My flatmate is a fellow forumite, as such I feel I must profess he is a wholly pefect flatmate in all respects.

[Fuzpoy]

we all have our own stuff in my house so if its not washes its your own problem.

[Charlie]

OK, it's now gone too far. He borrowed 24 Season 1 from me last week and handed it back without the outer sleave on the case and is adamant I didn't give it to him! I'm absolutely positive I did...

[darkcloud]

WTF?

Simple solution...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dXyxOIR-_Is

You have wooden floors right?

[Ashley]

We have one of those; doesnt pull his weight and such. And I wasn't going to say anything (else it turns into a big "me too!" sesh) but I got home today and, bearing in mind everyone else has gone home for christmas and its just me here, he has cooked food and left his washing up on the side, not done. Was not impressed.